1) Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.
2) Now I praise ye brethren, that ye remember me in all things.....
3) But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is the man, and the head of Christ is GOD.
( read the whole chapter: it is very interesting and rewarding...) this is what I see:....
BUT THE HEAD OF EVERY MAN IS CHRIST, AND THE HEAD OF THE WOMAN IS THE MAN, AND THE HEAD OF CHRIST IS GOD!
This is the "God ordained Godly order" so let's have a further look,
In Ephesians chapter 5, we also read:
21:Submitting yourselves one to another.
22: Wives submit yourselves to your own husbands as to the Lord.
23: For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church, and He is the saviour of the body.
24: Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
25: Husbands love your wives "as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for it"
28: So ought men to love their wives, as their own bodies.
HUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES, EVEN AS CHRIST ALSO LOVED THE CHURCH AND GAVE HIMSELF UP FOR IT!
Christ loved the church, he died for the church, His bride/body.
Wives honour respect your husbands.
The concept of headship does not work, apart from submission the Christ. Many men, who never read the Bible, are quite often found quoting these verses, but if they ever bothered to read the rest of the context, I'm sure they would not be so eager to quote the Apostle Paul.
A family cannot function without leadership. And, God has assigned the leadership to the husbands. The problem lies more in the abuse and the misunderstanding of this authority, then the concept it self. You see, Jesus must be first and foremost the head of the husband.
IF the husband has rejected Christ, then the "God ordained authority" has been forfeited.
The husband cannot be the spiritual leader of the house without Christ.
How often do we see the wife and mother as the spiritual leader of the family? She is the one who takes the children to church and she is the one who teaches them from the Bible.
The woman was taken from the SIDE of the man, not from the foot as to be a footstool, not from the head so as to lord it over him, but from the side, so the two might become one and walk together in unity. Let me tell you right now, if your marriage is marked by domination, then you as a couple, are not following the Lord's leading.
If the husband is an abuser of the wife and or the children, he again has forfeited his "GOD ordained" position and responsibility to love "as Jesus loved"
If the husband is a drunkard, drug abuser, adulterer, gambler, is slothful, and refuses to provide for his family, he again has forfeited his "God ordained" position to provide for his family.
What is God's will for husbands?
God's will for husbands is that they are to be the head of the wife. O.K. So, just what does this mean? Let me begin by saying what it does not mean!
It does not mean that it gives them total control over their wives nor their children.
It does not mean that they can keep their wives under their thumb.
It does not mean that when the husband says, "jump!" the wives says "O.K. which way...how far?"
He does not dominate it all over his wife and children. and make it look like she/they have no personalities or thought and feelings of their own.
Eph: 5 v 23: "For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Saviour"
AS head of the church, Christ is not just the source, but also it's Lord. HE gives the church it's life, and also rules it. In the same way, the husband is the head of the wife, so accordingly, the husband is the source of and has the authority over his wife.
What this means in reality is that the husband is responsible to and before God, for the direction the family takes. Some day HE, the husband, will have to answer to GOD, for the lifestyle of his family. The husband will have to answer to God, for all the times his family.......
did or did not attend devotions at church or at home or......
for their tithing or for their giving......
or the education their children did or did not receive.
The husband is the head of the wife....this also means that it is his responsibility as to what kind of entertainment the family sees and does, he is the one who sets the standards of the kind of life style the family follows, whether it is of the world or of the Kingdom.
The husbands goal is, "like Christ and the church" to make his wife "radiant, holy and blameless" without stain or wrinkle (Vs27)As the head of the house he is to seek his wife's best interest, seek her spiritual gifts and to encourage her in all that the Lord wants her to be. Over and over, Paul wants to impress on the husbands that they are to be "Like Christ" and he is to enable his wife to grow and mature in Christ. He is to encourage her.
In His great love for the church, CHRIST gave Himself up for it, He died for the church, likewise, say scripture, the husband, for his great love for his wife, is to give of himself. He is to "sacrifice himself" he is to serve his wife as Christ serves the church. God's leading in marriage is for husbands to take the lead in exhibiting "Christ-like behaviour" of service and sacrifice.
How many husbands are like that?
How many husbands make sacrifices for their wives?
How many husbands take the lead in imaging Christ?
How easy would it be for wives to LOVE a husband like that?
And remembering that the above does not say, "Wives love your husbands" but it says, "Wives respect your husbands" that would not be hard to do if husbands were like the above, would it?
In today's churches there are too many widows, and I don't mean that the husbands have died, but that they have gone to...golf, or the club or football, or the telly or fishing or.....
"Well," you say, "There are lots of women who are wiser, better educated, and more successful than their husbands, are they expected to submit?" YES! Paul says, "Wives submit to your husbands as to the LORD" in other words, submission, like the husbands headship, is to be, CHRIST CENTERED. She submits, because it is for the sake of the LORD. It is to be joyfully voluntary, like the church to Christ, it is to be heartfelt and sincere.
How could a marriage go wrong if the husband wants to present his wife spotless and radiant before Christ, and to encourage her in all her spiritual gifts,and he wants her best interests, and he encourages her to be all the Lord wants her to be?
The marriage relationship is supposed to model the way God relates to His people.
A spirit filled husband and a spirit filled wife are to submit to one another
out of reverence of Christ!