I get a really nice little magazine, when it comes out, called "Above rubies"
I love it, it is so family orientated, and full of good advice, no matter what age you are....
This is what I got from it this time!
" Should people who come and stay with you, do what they are used to, or do what you are used to, in your home?
In other words......do they conform to your “house rules” or do you “fit in with what they usually do”
What does the Bible say?
God makes it very clear in His Word that the strangers were to have the same laws as the "home-born.” Let’s look at some of the Scriptures:
Exodus 12:49, 50: "One law shall be to him that is home-born, and unto the stranger that sojourneth among you. Thus did all the children of Israel; as the Lord commanded Moses and Aaron, so did they."
Numbers 9:14: "Ye shall have one ordinance, both for the stranger, and for him that was born in the land."
Numbers 15:15, 16: "One ordinance shall be both for you of the congregation, and also for the stranger that sojourneth with you, an ordinance forever in your generations: as ye are, so shall the stranger before the Lord. One law and one manner shall be for you, and for the stranger that sojourneth with you."
Numbers 15:29: "Ye shall have one law for him that sinneth through ignorance, both for him that is born among the children of Israel, and for the stranger that sojourneth among them."
Therefore I use this biblical principle in my home. Of course, I do have grace and mercy, but there are times when I have to lovingly, but firmly, state the rules of our home.
If parents do not have the decency to stop their children jumping on my sofas, I will have to tell the children to stop. I have often seen them jumping on beds and had to curtail them.
We like to sit up at the table when we eat. And I don’t allow eating throughout the house, except in the kitchen and dining room. It’s not easy to keep a home clean when crumbs are dropped through the house and drinks spilt on carpets.
We expect people who stay or live with us (and because we open our home continually in hospitality, we have many people coming and going) to join with us for Family Devotions morning and evening. This is part of the lifestyle of our home-born family, and therefore we expect “strangers,” although usually friends, to partake with us. Now if we have non-Christians sitting at our table, we won’t expect them to pray personally around the table as we usually do. However, we don’t forgo reading the Word, and my husband will pray instead.
I could go on talking about many issues and you will have lots of questions too. We need to be sitting around together in a circle to discuss this question. However, I hope these Scriptures will give you a guideline as you face situations like this in your home.
Very good advice, thank you Nancy
My parents did this, when I was a child,
I did the same with my children, but I was told I was too strict, when it came to visitors.....I still did it though...My home....my rules!