A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked about life.
At some point in the conversation, I said, “I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back.”
He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket.
Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: “I’m glad you help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me.
Last week I washed the floor and..... "no thanks.”
I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not “help” my wife.
Actually, my wife does not need help......... she needs a partner.
I am a partner at home and through that (because of society) are divided functions, but it is not a “help” to do household chores.
I do not help my wife clean the house...... because I live here too and I need to clean it too.
I do not help my wife to cook...... because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.
I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating..... because I also use those dishes.
I do not help my wife with our children...... because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.
I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes...... because the clothes are also mine and my children.
I am not a help at home, I am part of the house.
And as for praising, I asked my friend when it was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house....washing clothes.....changing bed sheets....bathing their children...cooking.... organizing.... etc.
You said.... "thank you?" Not just a thank you.....
But a thank you of the type: "Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!!"
Does that seem absurd to you?
Are you looking strange?
When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least, a prize of excellence with great glory … why?
You never thought about that, my friend?
Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job.
Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without you having to move a finger?
Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity.
Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs … Feel at home.
In his house.
The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship! “
(Author unknown but truly awesome…)
A friend of mine was at a boat sale. He was kind of interested in buying a boat.
He got to talking to the salesman, and as things go, one thing led to another and the salesman discovered my friend was a Christian.
"Tell me," the salesman began, "Why are you Christians so much against homosexuality?"
My friend was a bit surprised at the question, but he felt led by the Holy Spirit and answered,
"See this boat? Well, it's made to go into the water and float and run around in the lake....Now, no matter how hard I try to ride it on the road, it's not going to go for me is it?
Why? Because it is made to go on water.....it's the same with what you asked me about! It's not made for that!"
Salesman was impressed and happy with the answer, so my friend told me.